Do you ever hear your self think or say such things as?:
- I'm not really a...
- I don't really
do...
- I've never been good at..
- I can't
What we are really saying is that we WON'T do something.
Next time someone asks you to do something slightly outside your comfort zone try replying with 'I won't....' instead of 'I
can't' and see the reaction.
WON'T is much more final and will seem almost awkward in conversation.
Of course there will absolutely be things we won't do, and it will feel right to say so.
However, try stopping yourself just before the 'I can't' comes out.... and just say:
'hell yeah, I will give it a go'
Have you ever been so pleased that you started something, even though your initial reaction was to start talking and thinking yourself out of it, yet you did it anyway?
Me too, many times!
Has anyone else noticed that the things you do on a daily basis now are
things that 10 years ago would have made you nervous?
Me too....every day!
Think back to those little things that seemed like huge problems when we were crazy teenagers...how easy would they be to deal with now?
What would we tell our 16 year old self? (although I doubt we would listen though!)
Our thinking has evolved with us to a certain extent.
Just as we can improve our bodies with training we can train our thinking
too.
A large step is becoming aware of our thoughts and behaviours, almost as if we are observing each thought and emotion from a distance.
We can then build in a pause at each situation or decision, like a built in reality check.
We can then choose to be PROactive in our thinking and improve with experience and action, rather than Reactive where we let our environment, other people and situations manage our thinking.
