- unhappy?
- jealous?
- shy?
- angry?
- depressed?
Couldn't we then step away from thoughts around the above, realise that they are fleeting thoughts and not our true being, smile and put the mental energy saved into being an awesome husband, parent, colleague and friend?
If someone makes you angry, how about taking a deep breath, note that you are having an angry thought, shake it
off, smile and waste no more time on it?
What impact would that have on the other person?!
When confronted by an angry child, how impactful framing your words could be to help them
learn that the anger they feel at the moment will pass?
Children (and maybe us!) get so angry because they live totally in the NOW so when they do get mad they feel that this feeling will last forever?
Could saying 'are you having
angry thoughts?' or 'are you thinking you are feeling shy?' move a child away from making their thinking their defining factor and towards realising that their true 'being' is much more sovereign.
They are much more pure and authentic than the stream of thoughts flying through their
head!
Try it on yourself too...I've certainly noticed a difference in myself.
Our view of ourselves and our view of others can clash with the view that others have of US and THEMSELVES.....creating FOUR different fictional stories
Anybody else feel that that is a lot of variables?
No wonder relationships take work!
Where would we be if we were more in touch with our true selves, having a real view outwards so we can be more in touch with others?
Or in other words, leave your EGO at the door....
J