Hi
I used to say this to all my clients as part of my new client
consultations:
'What are you goals?'
The answers were more or less the same..lose weight, tone up, add muscle. All totally valid of course, yet I would often see people beating themselves up if they missed a target..even though they had made huge
progress towards it and good results in many other aspects of their life.
Sometimes missing a goal would see people start to give up and this broke my heart so we now take a long time working at reframing goals.
I still set goals with clients, however now I've learnt to
make sure we have worked together to ensure the 'goals' we are discussing are realistic, achievable and will create the right habits and behaviours.... working towards changes for life.
Effective goals are there to infiltrate our life with healthier habits gradually....and this takes time.
It is often about our perception and framing of a goal which is the difference between success and failure.
A goal to lose 10kg prior to a holiday or a wedding is of course a natural part of life, however what happens when the wedding or holiday has passed?
Can we carry on with the nutrition and exercise plan we used to get there (as often it is extreme and all encompassing), or will it fizzle out and we go back (or further back!) to where we were?
Should we maybe change 'goal' to 'waypoints ' on a health journey to a
'destination'?
Shouldn't the destination be becoming a thriving 80/90/100 yr old with an active life...and enough energy to charge about after those little people in our lives?
The holidays/ reunions/ weddings etc should be 'waypoints' that we hit along the
way with sustainable healthy living and an unmovable focus on the long game. If we miss these when life happens it's less of a dead end when the longer term destination is always at the forefront.
Putting a time limit to get somewhere is important and of course and it works...however we need to have a view on the far off destination.
This allows for ups, downs, detours and curveballs...I love this pic:
