Just as the cement holding the above wall together, these behaviours are what hold us together in some respects.
However, imagine the result an
incorrectly mixed, old or crumbling cement would cause when a little bit of pressure came its way?
However strong those bricks are..the wall will collapse without the strong support
If the bricks are the tasks, actions and responsibilities
we have to do in our lives, then the cement is the processes, habits and behaviours than make sure we are capable to do so.
So, this 'inner rebel' is there to protect us messing with this 'cement'.
- Ever get that feeling of resistance form deep inside when someone is giving us
well meaning advice when it starts to rub against your core values or behaviour....even when you know the advice is good and SHOULD be followed?
- Ever been told to NOT eat a foodstuff or food group, only to want to eat MORE of it?
- Ever been stubborn and missed an opportunity?
'faced with the choice between changing one's mind and proving that there is no need to do so, almost everyone gets busy on the proof'
John Kenneth
Galbraith
Without a doubt, success in a health journey is DIRECTLY proportionate to the open-mindedness and attitude of learning and change of a person.
We have all had the same things pointed out to us by two different persons
and followed one but not the other I'm sure?
There is a myriad of reasons for this.
Familiarity, level of respect, level of professionalism or simply how they communicate this advice changes whether or not our 'inner rebel' strikes again!
So how do we silence this 'inner rebel'?
- Make the changes small, little victories win big battles
- Be clear what your core values are. Do nothing that goes against this.
- Revisit, analyse and
take notes on how each little change makes you feel and perform.
- Remember that what seem's out there or fringe, often has really good merit.
- Remember that we know things work...just not all things have been researched or 'proven' yet.
- If your mentor or coach does butt heads with your inner rebel,
tell them. You may be waking theirs too.
I find the reaction we have to feedback or change fascinating. I've struggle with taking feedback for years and only now have a handle on it (Kim may disagree I'm sure!).
Overall, view everything as an opportunity, say yes more and see what happens.
It will be pretty rare for someone to actually be trying to sabotage you...and I'm sure that the stronger your 'inner rebel' is the easier you will spot those meaning harm anyway!
Have a beginners mind set always!
J
